1. sweet nothings - kahit feeling mo walang kwenta yung sinabi mo, ang mahalaga marinig ko boses mo
2. your understanding - although this takes time. it's like the line from a song - "isang tingin mo lang at ako'y mapapaamo. yakapin mong minsan, ay muling magbabalik sa yo nang walang kalaban-laban". Yung ganyang effect. No words. But full of understanding.
3. when you stand by our side. sometimes, i don't need too much - your comforting words, warm hug, consoling kiss - sometimes, just being there by my side is all i need.
4. magaling humirit. someone who's spontaneous and can make boring things seem interesting. di naman pang-stand up comedian yung galing. basta ba may sense of humor.
5. honest. if you really don't like things that i'm doing, say it the first time. guys are people who just do things spontaneously. sometimes we have terrible manners/etiquette. in some aspects, we may act like untamed, wild, undomesticated wild beasts. tell us. sometimes, all we need is an honest remark. and we appreciate if my gf will tell me what she doesn't' like about me.
6. set your rules. i'll set my rules... in this relationship. kung anuman di magtugma, pag-usapan natin.
and this will go a long way. it's not just because i want this and 'everyone is doing this and that' doesn't mean 'we' need to do it too... like sex. i'll be honest. regardless of virginity and/or past relationships. refer to number 5.
7. once numbers 5 and 6 are set in motion, next is moderation. guys like to be in control. but it doesn't mean that we have to be in control for everything. that's why this is called a relationship. it's not dictatorship or slavery.
8. compromise. matutong makipagtawaran. di lang naman sa dv or sa kumpisalan ito uso. kahit sa relationship. you can't have everything. minsan pati sched sa work, family, and/or church nagkakaroon ng clash sa relationship.
9. speaking of tawaran. nakakataba ng puso pagkatapos ng away,tampuhan,LQ, or kung anuman ang bagong tawag sa ayaw ng magnobya, forgiveness and reconciliation. sometimes, kailangan lunukin ang pride. sometimes, kailangan ako ang mag-sorry. kung kayang wag palakihin at ayusin, mas ayos. the three steps for patching things up - i'm sorry, please forgive me, what can i do next time?
10. self-importance. we like to be in control but it doesn't mean na magpaka-martyr kayo. it boosts our ego. it opens the potential for seeing other girls and giving rise to jealousy issues. and eventually, a big cold silent war.
kung pasaway ako, iwanan mo ko. malay mo matauhan ako at malaman ko kung gaano kalaki ang mawawala sa akin pag hinayaan kung mawala ka sa buhay mo. maliban na lang kung bato ko. kasi pati kidlat, wa-epek.
11. unless i'm a very spiritual person who feels God and His presence, i will be happy if you will not force me to incorporate your religious rituals in my life. i have my own set of beliefs. i see religion in my own perspective. i can accompany you but i won't promise that i will feel very comfortable every time.
in other words, if di ako pala-simba, don't force me. you can trick me but it's still the same. pero baka isipin mo na kung mahal ka talaga ng guy, dapat samahan ka niya sa church. then again, as i mentioned, i have my own beliefs.
(this is just another perspective esp for non-religious people. i want people to understand you. it's like going to the same place but taking another alternate road)
11. (alternative) a different version of number 11. i would love if you'd attend some religious rituals with me. again, if you're not comfortable, refer to the being honest entry. this would set boundary and i need to respect it.
12. appreciate change. it's hard to adapt to change. but it's part of life. if kailangang mag-adapt, although nahihirapan ka, para sa sarili ko at para sa relationship natin, kailangan nating gawin to. if the relationship doesn't work, then again, appreciate change. maybe it's not meant to be. maybe nagloloko na lang ako or di ko na na-set nang maayos goals ko. maybe it's another reason. or maybe it's for the better. kaya siguro ako nasa ibang bansa para pag-ipunan married life ko with you
13. lastly, the most important thing that makes me happy is....
what else?
or should i say...
who else?
of course, you
even if you haven't put on your make up. even if you're only wearing house clothes. even if you haven't fixed your hair yet. i don't care. the moment i see you, i am already happy.
sometimes, you're makulit, to the point that i might think you're nagging. but since i love you so much, i'd consider it part of your lambing.
i may have the man's pride. but if i see that your eyes began to look watery, i'd swallow that pride. i don't want to see you cry. i would do anything because i love you more than anything.
if i make you feel uncomfortable, forgive me. if you think that i'm going beyond how i should treat you, give me a cold shower or splash a cold water to my face. maybe it's my hormones or it's part of human nature. or i feel pressured. whatever my reasons are, please remind me that the principle of love precedes everything else.
and lastly, to answer the comments of those who posted in the previous thread. girls, you've done nothing wrong.
sometimes, if you think that you're saying too much or acting too much, it doesn't matter. you matter most.
***credits from thriteenflip @kerygma forum
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