7 signs your relationship won't last

#I happened to read this article from yahoo.ph this morning. Out of curiosity, I read the article and I guess it pretty much answered why my previous relationship didn't last. Anyway though, I know someone better is coming my way. Thanks for this article, another lesson learned!

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It’s not uncommon to find yourself in a dead-end relationship and wonder why you’re there. Sometimes things aren’t working out but you just can’t put your finger on why. If you feel like your romance is doomed but you aren’t sure whether it’s time to call it quits, we’ve got seven signs that your relationship won’t last.

Sign of a break-up 1: The relationship is turning mean

While “treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen” may sometimes be the key to attracting that special person, if you’ve been with your loved one for a while and you’re still being treated mean then it’s unlikely that your partner’s objective is to keep you keen. While most couples tease each other by being ‘mean’ in a playful/flirtatious way, if their main intention is to hurt or demean you then the respect has evaporated from the relationship and it’s going to end in tears. 

Sign of a break-up 2: You choose not to spend much time together

Relationships thrive when both members of a couple create the right balance between spending time apart and spending special time together. If you find yourself spending a large amount of time without your partner and you’re not even missing them, there’s a good chance you’re just not that into them and your relationship is probably headed for the rocks.

Sign of a break-up 3: You’re not introduced to family or friends

When you’ve met that special someone who you really love, you have butterflies in your stomach and you want to shout about your romance from the rooftops. If you’ve been with someone for a good few months and they still haven’t introduced you to their family or friends then you’ve got to question why they aren’t making your relationship public information...

Sign of a break-up 4: They’re controlling

Does  your other half want to know your exact whereabouts and exactly what you’re up to at all times? While you might enjoy the attention to start off with, this can become pretty annoying after some time. If your other half is exhibiting behaviour like this, it’s a signal that they are jealous by nature. You’ll only be together for as long as you can put up with this for but even if you stay together, you will end up feeling smothered and this isn’t the recipe for a happy relationship.

Sign of a break-up 5: You have nothing in common

Yes, we know that opposites attract but when you’re so opposite that you can’t even have a decent conversation because you have nothing in common, we’re pretty sure that polar opposites repel in these situations. Of course, you don’t want to be with someone who is exactly the same as you (yawn!) – having different interests can be exciting. When it gets to the point where your conversations are boring though, we can pretty confidently say that this isn’t going to work out.

Sign of a break-up 6: Where’s the commitment?

If you’ve been seeing each other for a while and your other half has shown no signs of wanting to commit, it’s worth wondering why. Of course, some romances take a long time to develop by nature, but make sure you don’t end up being strung along by someone who doesn’t see a future with you. A relationship where one person wants to commit and the other doesn’t seem interested is destined for disaster.

Sign of a break-up 7: Too busy to call

Of course, it’s normal for people to be too busy to call their partner a lot of the time – life is busy! However, if the phrase “I’m too busy to call” is becoming all too familiar, then your other half needs to prioritise. If they can’t do that, you’re going to end up feeling pretty rubbish. Everyone needs to feel special and if your other half doesn’t make you feel that way, it’s time to ditch them for someone who does! 

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a word for our pound for pound king

The Pacquaio-Marquez stand-off was another talk of the town (and the world) this 2012. After four boxing fights, many said that this is finally the concluding match and will really determine who the best fighter is. Unfortunately though, Pacquaio's magic didn't make it. On the sixth round, he fell, much to the bewilderment, surprise, and devastation of all his avid fans. The debates are on-going, attributing it to his 'change of religion.' Many would say that he has lost his lucky charm because he no longer held his rosary tight, knelt down, and prayed before the fight. Others would blame his change of religion, from being a Catholic, and now to a Protestant. He no longer strictly adhere to the beliefs of the Catholic faith since he is now a Protestant convert, he attends Bible studies and preach the word of God in accordance to the Protestant faith. People mock as if they were Pacquaio, as if they knew all the pains he has gone through. It is very sickening to hear people throw stones as if he never did anything good for the country. How heart-breaking it is to hear all the stone-throw of harsh words even if Pacman was truly a country's pride after all the laurels he has brought home for our motherland. And so here I am, not to protect his interest, but as a fan and supporter, to give my due respect to our so called "pound-for-pound" king.

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To our dearest Pacman,

I am not really a boxing fanatic. But because I almost grew up watching all your fights (courtesy of my dad), I sort of was left with no choice but to love boxing. I really admired your dedication and passion for your craft- your rigorous and intense training was always beyond wonders as you really put your heart in what you do. Boxing was akin to putting your other foot below the ground- life threatening that is, and even if others would say it is for pure money-making and for the fame and glory, I am still just proud as a fan to see my fellow Filipino fight and triumphantly bring home the bacon and the laurel. Your victory is also ours, and so for every fall, we feel your pain and agony, too. People can be so cruel and judge you harshly, but at the end of the day, please remember that you always have your loyal supporters to pat your back and pray for you after every defeat. This fall is just a challenge to your faith and strength of character. Much is given to you- power, fame, riches, and glory. Thus, much is expected. Please be reminded that people are wary and on the look-out on how you'll take your defeat. Honestly, I pray that you will take it the way a real sportsman should- with humility and acceptance, which I believe you did. With that, I hope that you won't look at it as if it's the end of the world. Remember, you are not on the pillar of success forever, because no one will hold on to that too for so long. As it is, no matter how strong you might be, you will always have your downfall. As the song superman goes, even heroes have the right to bleed.

Yes, it is not easy to be you. Months of training, venomous words from your opponents, a bloody fight inside the ring- who would have endured all those? Only a brave soul- which you did. You have been an example worthy of emulation for your untiring dedication to your country, your sport, and your faith in God. Likewise, you have proven that you can always go beyond what is expected as you bravely faced the world of politics, no matter how dirty as it appears to be. You have done so much, actually. And needless to say,  there is nothing much to prove. Believe that all this happens for a reason, and it is just a test, and with your faith, all this you will pass with flying colors.

I am not in the position to say or to tell you that it is time for you to let go. But maybe, after many years of fighting, I guess you should consider it giving yourself the peace and the rest you deserve. You have given the country so much victories already, and while you are still on the peak of your career, with record still clean as it appears to be, then go and consider retiring. Your world does not stop inside the ring. In fact, that's just the beginning of it. Prove your detractors wrong, and show them the real strength of an ultimate fighter. Don't give up on your faith; instead show them that with your faith, there is no life's battle that you cannot win.

They say that this might be  a "punishment" for your conversion, but I would not agree or disagree with that. Anyhow, people are entitled to their opinions, respect that. But if your heart is really for serving Him, by all means do it. Listen to your heart and not to the voices of the majority. As always, the heart can tell you where your home is. I am a Catholic too. But I respect it if you found home and refuge in the Protestant faith. Worry not if people condemn you. At the end of the day, you will know that people persecute you because you are way above them. Catholic, Christian, Buddhist, or Muslim, does it still matter? It may or it may not. But as long as you are committed to your faith, I guess you can never be wrong. Serve wholeheartedly, that is all that matters.

So now that you are confronted with such a tough challenge, remember who to turn to. There will always be that someone who will pick you up. And no matter what happens, there will always be those good people who will look up to you for all you've done. Think of them instead of your detractors. You had a long and tedious journey already. And for all of that, our sincerest thanks. You are still one of the greatest boxers the Philippines and the world could ever have. We are just plain proud!

Stand up and keep the faith and fire burning in your heart!

With respect and prayers,

Ellen Marie Llabore

an ideal family

I'm recently tutoring in Mandaluyong for the granddaughter of the owner of a well-known condiment/cooking product. I would say that it was a very good paying part time job. But even if the family was well-off, I admired the way they treated me and their employees. Since I have been tutoring the girl for 4-5 months already, I had quite a number of encounters with the family members and their workers. With them, I never felt like I am different or a nobody. I am happy that they do respect me and make me feel like I am a part of their family. In fact, they will even ask me to join their dinner every time we are having the tutorial sessions. I had the idea that not all rich people are snob or elitists, as this family is really down to earth and humble. I have proven that as when Habagat hit the Philippines, I saw them pack relief goods for their employers who have been victims of the floods. Indeed, it is in their heart to care and share. Thus, I will gladly say that I am extremely lucky that I was given the opportunity to tutor one of their family members.

As I look at them during dinner time, I cannot help but be all smiles. Mine was a genuine smile, for I can't help but be happy to see such an ideal family- eating, joking, and sharing stories together. The father of my tutee would always make sure that every night, he would ask how his daughters spent their day in school, asking them what they did and what they learned for the day. On the other hand, their mother (a housewife) is always hand-on, checking on her daughter's progress in school, checking on the things they need, picking them up at school every day, and will always ask what her kids prefer for baon the next day. The mom will always find time to talk with her daughter's teachers and to talk to her children's good performances and even misbehavior in a gentle manner. They stick together for each other that if a family member has a competition to attend to (as the girls are very much into sports), they are always the loyal supporters. How sweet it is to have such a family. So whenever I imagine and envision a family of my own, I close my eyes and pray that I hope their family will be like mine. And every time I do that, I am filled with anticipation and joy.

This tutorial job is really a blessing to me in many different ways. Financially, it was able to sustain my needs and even my wants. It has also enable me to be good at time management and at spreading myself. It helped me to relate with other people aside from my usual work here in school as I get to talk to my tutee's parents, sisters, grandparents, and even the other employers of their family. Furthermore, it helped me visualize the kind of family that I want to have, the kind of mom I want to be, and the way I will bring up my kids someday. So every night as I go home after each session, I close my eyes and say a deep prayer, thanking the Lord for this wondrous blessing. Indeed, everyday, God is molding me to be the best person I can be- as a teacher, tutor, friend, and of course a mother and wife in the nearest possible future. :D

So thank you God for this chance to meet this family. Now I know Your purpose for meeting them.

Amen :D

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dear 2012

Dear 2012,

I cannot believe that time flies like a thief in the night. I feel like I'm running after you as the year is again about to end.There were good and bad things that happened, but no matter how things turned out, my heart is full of gratitude for they are all experiences for me to learn. As the year is about to draw close, I would say that I am stronger, tougher, and wiser.

Thank you for making me realize that it is not selfish to love myself all the more, even before I expect others to love me back. This time, I am more confident than ever, and I will stand tall and be proud of who I am, for I am created with purpose. Thank you that I am no longer doubtful of my abilities, and therefore, I know and I am certain of what I want to  be someday. I know the road that I am heading and I will never go wrong because my heart is willing to go for it. Someday soon, all my dreams will come true. Undeniably indeed, learning to love yourself is the greatest gift of all.

I would also like to thank you for drawing me closer to my Creator and thereby increasing my strength, fortitude, faith, and optimism. Indeed, I am at my happiest this year because I am a strong believer that happiness is a choice and life is what you make it. Today, I will no longer allow clouds of doubts to hinder my vision as I can always strive to make the most out of the most despairing situation. The bouts of melancholia will come, but it will never be triumphant in bringing me down. 

Also, thank you that even after my heartbreak, I was able to pick up the pieces and move on with forgiveness and joy. Surprisingly, I did not have any ill-feelings toward him and deep in my heart I know I am open to reconciliation and patching things up with him. Likewise, I have grown wiser and am certain that I will no longer make the same mistakes again. If my life is being emptied right now, it's because He has something better to put in my life. Now, I am most certain of myself, and I know I am more than ready to find that love and to share my completeness with someone as complete as I am. Love is soon coming my way, that I am most assured of. I have no doubts. :D

Furthermore, thank you for giving me more opportunities to go out of my way- to travel, to spend time with my friends, to meet more people, to try things I have never done before, to share my talents and to go out of my comfort zones. Indeed, I have maximized my potentialities this year, and for 2013, I know I can do more. I can do anything. I am full of zest and energies, overflowing, that is.

So soon, I shall bid goodbye to you, but let me tell you that I owe you so much. And for making me the person I am today, I will be forever indebted to you. 2012 will always be a year so close to my heart, and this 2013 will be my breakthrough year, for sure.

Goodbye and thank you 2012! I shall always remember you with fondness.

Always and forever,

Len

it's the month!!!!

It really helps when you think of good things but relax at the same time. When I started reading "The Secret" and "Happiness Project," my life pretty much had that 360 degree turn. I was less pessimistic (or no longer negative) and I became more joyful. My faith in God has also increased thereby enabling me to see the good things life has for me. I realized that I am overly blessed with so much, and whatever it is that is not yet here, will come soon. I have the faith, so I just have to trust God and relax in his unfailing love.

And so I told myself that I want to be happy and I will no longer belittle myself. I am God's champion, powerful servant, and I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I believe in myself. I can conquer my fears. I can do everything. Nothing is impossible. Therefore, I can find love, very soon.

It might be too early to say it's a fearless forecast that "he's the one." But the mere fact that I claim it to heart this year that I will find love this 2012, and I will receive the best birthday gift ever this January 2013 means God is really working in my love life. Wow! Fantastic indeed. :D He is indeed amazing. So finally, after months of friendship, I will have a date again. Wohoooo! :P

I am just praying right now that things will be well. I will stay put and keep it cool. The excitement is there, but I guess I shouldn't think about it everyday. If this guy is meant for me, he will be persistent, and he will prove himself to me. If ever he will express his intention, then might as well give it a try. Who knows? We might get along pretty well. I am open to all possibilities. I will just allow God to work in my love life and open myself to the pouring of blessings.

And so I am no longer doubtful and afraid. I am certain that finally, good things will come to me, because I deserve the best. I asked and prayed for love.I believe it will come. And so I am receiving it.

"Because whatever it is that you asked for in prayer, believe, that you have received it, and it will be yours."

Amen!

#12/22/12 ..... set the date!!! See you!